After All I Have Done For You….

Lately, scenarios like this have been popping up on my radar-

A relationship goes south (any relationship: BFF/BFF; doctor/patient; pastor/congregant; mentor/protegee, brother/sister). I purposely left romantic relationships out of this equation due to their own particular complexities.

One party takes to either social media or social circles telling on the other party, talking about “After all I did for them, they did x or they said y” or “they left me after all I did for them” or “my patient reported me after I bent over backwards…”

I personally have been the “victim” of people who forget all the good you ever did for them the moment you do something wrong.

Here are some things to consider: 

1. People are seldom grateful forever.
2. Even after “all you did for them” they probably did some good for you too.
3. Remind yourself that the good things you did are in themselves their own reward.
4. What is done is done, we cannot change the past, but we can learn lessons from the experience.
5. In the grand scheme of things, no one owes us anything.
6. People are people and they do not come with guarantees.
7. Love is messy.

What ways have you used to get over the “After-All-Have-Done-For-You” feelings?

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